For I through the law am dead to the law, that I might live unto God. I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. I do not frustrate the grace of God: for if righteousness come by the law, then Christ is dead in vain.
Galatians 2:19-21
The Christian life cannot be lived successfully if our focus is on ourselves or if we allow our desires to come first. Jesus made it clear that we cannot follow in His steps unless we are willing to die to self. “And when he had called the people unto him with his disciples also, he said unto them, Whosoever will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me” (Mark 8:34). We cannot be truly like Jesus otherwise, because that is exactly what He did. No one forced Him to go to the cross. He willingly chose to die for our sins when He could have stopped the entire process at any point with a single word.
Our old nature and our old desires do not disappear when we are saved. What changes is that we now have the power to deny them—to die to ourselves so we can live for Christ. George Müller said, “There was a day when I died, utterly died, died to George Müller, his opinions, preferences, tastes and will, died to the world, its approval or censure, died to the approval or blame even of my brethren and friends, and since then I have studied only to show myself approved unto God.” What we live for is determined by what matters most to us. If we love God more than anything else, then we will not shirk from the struggle and pain of bearing our cross. If we do crucify ourselves, we will then be prepared to live like Jesus lived.